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 我觉得我是一个不能自己走出谷底的人,我需要一个人聆听我的心事然后给我一些好建议或安慰。 他今天在群里又发红包,我也厚着脸皮领了红包,反正我没有骂过他也不会说他的坏话,领了也没怎样。只是我不可能主动和他说话因为他不想和我说。我找了小叔子和老师说这件事,两个人都给了我很好的建议但是还是老师说话温柔些。小叔子一直说我重蹈覆辙,说我就是太天真,简直就是个笨蛋。而老师却说了好多愈合我的伤口的话。他说的几句话我要在这里记着:

- 爱是相互的,只有单方面的爱是很没有必要的。不值得。忘了这微不足道的人吧。道不同,不相为谋, 做不了朋友是你的缺失,不是我的。我的花朵独自开放。

- 他的剧本已经在你这里杀青了(吃瓜表情)和死了没两样(旺财表情)。

- 感情这个东西吧, 很容易被时间淡化的。 有时候你觉得放不下的东西,格勒一年以后, 回过头来看看,对呀, 好像没有什么大不了的。

- 所以我一直叫你骂回去(旺财表情),反正都要分离一段时间, 何必憋着(旺财表情)。

- 下次不要和他玩,挨骂我心疼。 

- 可能就是彰显自己吧,这人水平也不咋地, 做人水平不咋地,玩游戏玩的好也不算什么。羡慕他玩的好(破涕为笑表情)这有什么好羡慕的(旺财表情)。 

- 两方面, 不是因为我拥有所以不羡慕,是我觉得玩游戏重点不是技术,是人与人的交流,是默契,是互相弥补对方的缺陷。不然组队干嘛,自己玩去吧。技术再好,没人跟你玩,那技术有什么用。

- 你把你的快乐凌驾于我的难过上面,只有你一个人快乐,那我就不跟你玩。

- 好啦,因为一个烂人不用想这么深远啦,就此别过。

- 不要让自己的思维太陷入纠结中,不论什么事,影响心境。 干干脆脆,清清爽爽。 

- 断舍离的缺点是,学进去,走太深,人容易凉薄。 人还是有一点温度才好。不过大道理是好的。

- 不光要增加是为的宽度,也要增加身体的强度。不要放弃锻炼。锻炼的时候不要想事情,之好好感受身体的反馈就够了。

重新把老师的话再抄一遍,感觉心里更好过。 老师也很幽默,当我说感激他开导我,他就说 "也谢谢你满足了我想开导别人的虚荣心(旺财表情)”。 他真的是个善良的好人,我真的很幸福遇见了他。 所以真的希望我们都能做自己,想到什么就说什么,不用怕冒犯对方。 嗯,这是我们昨天说好的要做自己。 

我让三做他自己,我尊重他不理会我了。昨晚我在群里试着和他沟通,可是得到的只是敷衍。他还没有在游戏里删我。我不懂微信是不是散了,我也不敢私聊他,也不想知道他再次删我。我真的好想忘了他。忘了我们的对话 - 这些都很常在我失眠时发生的,因为他的白天是我的晚上。我相信不同时辰会让人有不同的状态。我舍不得他......还是必须舍得。 

断舍离 - 我能学会吗?

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