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昨晚我家乡的邻居突然给我个简讯来分享他终于在七个月里成功的瘦下来了。他把他减肥的成绩单发给我看,里面有他七个月来的进展而且也记录得很详细。 我看着他的体脂肪减了,代谢年龄也小了,内脏脂肪也少了,替他感到开心。唯有不是很理想的是他的肌肉量也变少了。 其实我们不是很熟,他的母亲曾经是我幼儿园的老师,就很巧我在疫情时买的房子刚好是在他家对面。

由于我算是一个很少和朋友一起出去的人,很多时候都是一个人去进行我的爱好。我的爸爸呢又会整天担心我一个人去爬山,所以我看到对面的小弟尽然那么友善就约了他爬山。那时候我想能一举两得,就是鼓励别人做运动然后顺便让爸爸知道我是有人陪我去爬山 (可是我觉得我那时候也算是利用他来让我爸爸不要一直不放心我一个人)。没想到这小弟后来也当我像个姐姐来看待 (他小我六岁)。他家里还有两个弟弟所以我想他当大哥也很累因为一直要展现好榜样。我们也不常聊天但是通过我们的对话,我看得出他在事业上有种种的不满,感情上遇到了好几次的失败变得他对感情有点没自信也很害怕再次的受伤。 虽然这些我帮不了他,可是我很感动原来我也可以启发别人减肥!

仔细的想我这个人也不是个很好的朋友,我回了两次的家乡,他家就在我对面我也没有刻意去和他打招呼问好。可是他有看到我回家也问了我如何瘦下来因为三年前的我和现在的我是十公斤的差别。那时候我就以发简讯的方式和他联络就和他说尽量避免吃有糖的食物,多吃蛋白质,少吃碳水化合物,还有多运动多喝水,别熬夜,别喝酒。 没想到他真的有乖乖的听从指示,因为昨晚问他是用什么方式减肥,他就说:“和你教的,控制糖,和运动”。 虽然他不是九九六,可是工作时间也相当的长,就是七七六。所以每天回家只是做运动然后冲凉,睡觉。 我从他的时间表体会打工族的无奈 - 他连学线上交易都没时间学了。 

我建议他最好还是要花点时间学新知识,再提升自己。他说最近看上了个美女,他们有一起跑步,我就给了他一点追求女生的点知, 没想到他尽然和我说他们只是在同一个地方跑步而且他还没有和她说过话。我的天啊,我心想这样不算是“一起跑步”呢!他就打听了她的名字然后上面书来“了解”她。 我不懂现代年轻人是怎么认识异性,可是我觉得只要他不开口踏出第一步是不会有任何的结果的。 我和他说被拒绝也是一个结果 (结局) 呀,至少不会浪费时间在不会选择你的人的身上。他说有无形的力量拦住他,让他走到她面前时无法开口。 哎呀,小弟,这个我真的帮不了你。 其实我自己也没有体会过被拒绝的感觉,只有体会过很多失败的友情。 

我也想起那个让我纠缠很久的男生, 其实他送过我一句“希望你没有后悔选择他”, 也刚巧是一首歌的题目。我想,首先我并没有做任何的选择,因为我是有夫之人,我当然不再须要做任何的选择。除非我的婚姻真的很失败,我被家暴,或另一半对我不忠或不礼貌,我觉得我是不会轻易的放弃我的婚姻,丢下我的枕边人。那时候我也不明白那位和我在线上认识了一个多月的男生尽然能有那么大的胆子和我论“选择”。不是我不选他,只是我们的相遇是来教训我必须和异性保持边界感,从开始都不必去做任何“选择”。要选,我都会选择和我熬过了种种风雨的另一半。到最后我依然还把他当红颜知己想继续我们的“友谊”,我想我那时也太“天真”了。像闺蜜说的“他不需要付出只用了花言巧语来打动你的心,所以别再和他有来往了”。 如今,整个事的发生让我最难过的就是他赞扬了我忠诚的品格,却考验了我。红颜知己是不会去考验我,让我犯了最可恶的错,去显示了我对感情不够专一。(我不是再次折磨我自己,只是这件事我很不服也觉得很心痛)

伤心的事别提了。宝贝也提醒了我很多遍 "人谁无过 过而能改 善莫大焉"。 感恩有宝贝的包容。我得培养更多良好的品格和习惯,因为我就像太阳(丙火人),我的正能量能启发别人! 

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