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Gone is another Stage

Why do we need to sit for exams? I think exams marks the stages in life. My little brother once told me that he learned from a documentary on exams that human beings grow mature each time they sit for an exam. I find this statement to be controversial as sometimes I think exams make me feel more immatured especially if the results is not what I have expected. Even so, I do feel that exams mark the stages of human life.

Thinking back the time where I was just 4years old, academic performance have always been part of my life. At my kindergarten, I often get a red star mark on my palm when I did something that pleases the teacher. My parents will smile with joy when they see my blue color report card is full of stars and not triangles or circles. (star is the best and triangle is the worst grade) During that time, I still enjoy studying as it was fun however I started to form a theory in my head that is "If I get stars, my parents will love me more; if I get triangles, they will not love me so much". Yes, my self-worth is determined by my academic performance.

Although I'm not a top student, I manage to please my parents with my results throughout the years except for my Senior UEC result of course which made my mom so disappointed with me. I felt really bad. Actually I do not enjoy learning now a days because in the end it is your result that determine whether you are qualified to move on to the next stage. So, naturally, most of us do not learn because we love to learn but we just force ourselves to learn in order to pass examinations with flying colors and get enrolled in whatever university which we desire.

I did take my SPM result the other day although I didn't dream or plan of taking it (Mom scolded me which was the only reason that I take the results as her words really pierce my heart the other day). I manage to get two A1s and seven A2s which seem to please my mom so much and I don't know why. I'm not really pleased though as I do have my reasons for the disappointment that I feel. I can't believe that I get B3s for Moral and English for Science and Technology...Subjects that were often regarded as added A's. Anyway, after I got the result, I feel that something changed. I feel that I am moving on and right now I can only think of obtaining 4A's for my A-Levels exam which will be a great challenge for me as I am not performing well lately base on the results of my progressive tests.

Even so, the sense of maturity which I gain after obtaining my SPM results make me feel that I'm a much capable person right now and it gives me some self-confidence (something which I lack a lot when it comes to exams).

I hope that the people around me will give me the motivation which I need from time to time as I really need it a lot! (Especially encouragement from my family, close friends and lecturers )

Yeah! I'm moving on into the next stage of my life and it wouldn't be long before it will come to an end. Therefore, I'll definitely make the most out of it!

Comments

K^2 DM said…
The moment u move to the higher stage of life. The tougher it will be. It's depend on how are u going to deal with it. Life is not as easy as u think. Take my life as example. Everyday i have new challenge whether in study or other things. I have to think the solution and solve it. Just like u are playing a strategy game. U have to think how to defeat ur opponent. The result of ur exam just show that how much have u learn. How much knowledge have u gain from ur lectures. The most important is u put ur effort in doing it. So dun feel bad when u dun get gud result. No one is perfect in this world. (^=^)
Unknown said…
life is fun and full of puzzle...
enjoy it...
WillytheKid said…
Do you really remember what you did at 4 yo?????

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