Happy Mid Autumn Festival!
On this meaningful celebration where family gatherings are common, I feel thankful to celebrate my first Mid Autumn with my partner. I almost gave up the idea of celebrating as the traffic was heavy and usual journeys that takes 20 minutes became an unbearable 2 hour 20 minutes. Not sure when will the road and transportation system be revamped for a better quality of living. I just cannot deal with traffic congestion and I could not brain why are the locals not making suggestion for a change. If I were the one managing this area I would first generate a lot of hop on hop off buses that are very comfortable with multiple frequent trips throughout the region. Secondly I would discourage personal transportation at all tourist spots by imposing a very huge fee for a permit to use personal transportation. I would also make sure all offenders of double parking get severe punishments such as a huge penalty followed by revoke of driving license if the offence is being committed more than twice. Gosh I just really cannot bear with the poor management resulting in so much of precious time wasted. This is one of the reasons I dread to move here permanently in the future as I don’t think I have any patience or tolerance to live such life.
Okay back to the happy part of the day, it was rather rainy and it was impossible to carry our lanterns and go for a stroll so we changed plans and hung all 10 lanterns at the balcony and arranged the sofa to face the balcony view to enjoy our lanterns. We also had some very unconventional food - Nasi Lemak for dinner. The nasi lemak were meant to be an offering to the 3 deities that takes care the farm land but thanks to the heavy traffic we had no time for prayers and offerings. I hope the deities understand the situation and are not disappointed to have nothing offered to them on this auspicious day. Then we have delicious Shanghai style mooncake and some tea while we guess a few riddles written on the lanterns - it really brought back childhood memories. The riddles were all quite simple except for one which I am still cracking my head until now. Although I was too tired to change into more festive attire, I think I fulfilled my goals and dreams to celebrate this day with my partner and pray that from this point on we get to celebrate this day together annually.
We also did another valuable thing today which was visiting his foster parents. Although I don’t have much to say and wasn’t as chatty, I felt wonderful that we could connect with the elders and they seems very pleased to see us. One of them have end stage disease and time is running out, my partner wanted to ask if there’s anything he would like to say to us but I stopped my partner from asking such questions as I can see that he is trying his best to just live normally and I think we should just give him the dignity to feel as normal as possible. I told my partner what I would like to say if I am leaving soon but before I get to say it he could guess it very well. It is also one of the reasons why each time I go on a flight or any long journeys I would always tell my family that one thing that I must let them know so that if any mishaps were to happen at least those were my last words to them. Actually I have a will that I have written many years ago with all my passwords and details on what I want on my funeral day - it isn’t sad, I had asked for Simple Plan’s song or equivalent to be played at my funeral and I remember details like wanting to be cremated and my funeral to be a party and no one feeling sad. I think I made that will after reading “how to simplify your life” (I think that is the book title, there’s definitely the word simplify in it).
My ex house-owner also contacted me today- she is one person that always kept in touch with me during all the festivities and it’s a special friendship that have been going on since 2013 till now. I guess she must have liked me as a tenant and I took care of her beautiful house and made a garden by the side throughout my stay there. I also recalled how I had ensure the house to be in its best condition and cleaned it thoroughly before returning the keys to her. Someday I will need to make a trip to see her and also my foster mom who is also staying in the same state. Foster mom didn’t reply to my text message today and I wonder is she out travelling and I felt a little bad as my last message to her was about a year ago when I told her I got married. I should put more effort connecting to people who had cared for me and nurtured me throughout my growth. Actually every moment you spent with anyone may be the last sometimes just like me and my foster dad. I never get to say a proper goodbye and he left due to liver cancer and till now I didn’t have the opportunity to visit his resting spot at the temple.
愿花好月圆，人团圆❤️
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