"It's only words and words are all I have, to take your heart away..."
It's a great irony of life that while most of us are polite with colleagues, salespeople and strangers, we are often harsh and angry at our loved ones. It is almost as if we enjoy criticizing and venting our anger on them.
What do we achieve by behaving this way? Nothing, really. In fact, angry tones and harsh criticisms put a damper on the intimacy of close relationships. We are robbing ourselves of the opportunity to feel close and be close to our loved ones.
Even if, in the event of a disagreement, you are right, do you really need to push your point across so violently? You're just making people distance themselves from you, because it becomes hard to talk to you.
When your loved ones wrong you or make a mistake, what's done is done. Which is better, being polite, extending forgiveness and then working together to solve the problem, or, venting your anger and frustration and making your loved ones feel worse than they already do?
When you make harsh criticisms of your loved ones, you are hurting them deeply, much more than you can imagine. Even if you didn't mean it. Just put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel?
Treasure your loved ones. At the end of the day, they're all you've got.
-Bee Gees-
Sadly, words are also the same thing that ripped your heart away. I am sorry for what I have done. How many apologies can I give you until you draw the line? I feel stupid. Really stupid.
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Be Gentle On Your Loved Ones
by allinspiration.com
by allinspiration.com
It's a great irony of life that while most of us are polite with colleagues, salespeople and strangers, we are often harsh and angry at our loved ones. It is almost as if we enjoy criticizing and venting our anger on them.
What do we achieve by behaving this way? Nothing, really. In fact, angry tones and harsh criticisms put a damper on the intimacy of close relationships. We are robbing ourselves of the opportunity to feel close and be close to our loved ones.
Even if, in the event of a disagreement, you are right, do you really need to push your point across so violently? You're just making people distance themselves from you, because it becomes hard to talk to you.
When your loved ones wrong you or make a mistake, what's done is done. Which is better, being polite, extending forgiveness and then working together to solve the problem, or, venting your anger and frustration and making your loved ones feel worse than they already do?
When you make harsh criticisms of your loved ones, you are hurting them deeply, much more than you can imagine. Even if you didn't mean it. Just put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel?
Treasure your loved ones. At the end of the day, they're all you've got.
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This wonderful article reflects everything that's on my mind. I really learned my lesson and regret every hurtful word that I have uttered to those I care and love. I am sorry. I wished there is something I can do to erase those words from your mind...but once words are spoken, there's no undo to it.
Words...they are just so powerful...
"When words are scarce they are seldom spent in vain"
-William Shakespeare-
Perhaps I need to learn how to be silent. Then maybe I won't hurt you the way I do.
"No words are necessary between two loving hearts"
Comments
lol...
softer than a..(i havent think of anything yet). lol
well,from my bro's PR class. before any words are spoken, you need to think from that person's view b4 letting go some words.
keeping urself quiet forever wont help. as it will make u lose touch or contact with others.