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Pranked

It’s almost 2am and I am wide awake because of a very bad prank pulled by my colleague/friend. Let’s just call him itchy boy because that is practically the nickname me and my husband had for him in mandarin (痒痒男). Well, he does live up to the nick name as he have no reservations in saying stuff to indicate that  he is quite a horny person. I’m not sure if it’s all just talk but a few of the examples are as follows: 


  1. telling me my female colleague butt is so huge that he wants to bury his face in her butt (eww…which I responded with “oh you like butt smell?) 
  2. Replying me with “find a whore to bang” when I wished him happy new year and asked him how is he celebrating (*facepalm) 
  3. Sending me inappropriate images when the topic was about possibility of going back to national service. I never follow the news so I didn’t know that the county is going to reopen National service which I have never attended nor did my sibling and we have no interest in attending. That image was with a caption “At national service washroom” and there was the cartoon of sexual activities and another person peeping from the opened toilet door and there’s an arrow pointing towards the girl to say “18 year old girl” and another pointer on the guy stating “35 year old uncle” and the person who is peeping was labeled as “me at national service”. Seriously I was speechless and showed my husband to which he said this is a form of sexual harassment to be sending such suggestive photos. 
  4. When he asked me if I wanna grab dinner and told him okay but to give me time to shower after my jog and he texted me “I don’t mind sweaty girls with a wink emoji”. (I think this is very inappropriate and I actually did not see the text and when we got dinner he actually ask me to read what he sent and I just rolled my eyes at him and he laughed) 
  5. He told me if he failed his exam and stayed for another semester there’s always Golok where he can pick up girls and if he pass and gets transferred down south he would get to go Geylang.I was like “Man, you not afraid of catching diseases?  You have a wife for goodness sake!” And he replied “a good friend cares if I catch disease but a best friend will say ‘Let me help you’ "(okay inappropriate again and I told him I’m not interested to be his best friend) 


Okay, so that was just a few examples on how he got that nickname. Since we are from different departments, we hardly work together but because sometimes there’s co-management of a patient, we do occasionally work with each other and he is quite responsible with his work. I didn’t know he had such a horny personality until after knowing him for more than half a year. However I also suspect he is the type of person that talks in that manner but likely do not actually do those things. He seemed like a responsible parent when the talks about his children and also a loving husband. He shared that after a few years of marriage and 2 children the love with his partner have changed. It is no longer the kind of love that is burning with passion but more of a peaceful harmonious kind of love. He gave me an example that if he sees anything good, the first person he would share with is his wife and then he also told me to get a child as he said children strengthen the bond between couples. I actually disagree because I do not want children and he told me if I do not want children then the only way is to have lots of sex with my husband. I was like “seriously bro? Sex again?”. 


Anyway right now I am pretty mad at him. It also made me realize that I should not be sending text messages to someone else’s husband, especially at late hours. I do not have my messaging notifications on and sometimes reply messages late but I think I should just wait to reply the next morning. So the past few days he has been sick so as a friend I just checked on him if he was well but there was no reply for two days. Since he told me he was vomiting badly and could not even drive, I was wondering if he eventually got hospitalized and so sent him another text to ask if he was alright. He replied me (or his account replied me) somewhere around 7pm but the messages were nasty. It says: 


“So you are the bitch that he is seeing on the other side!?” 

“XXXX is sick and in the hospital now” 

“Multiple angry emojis” 


I was shocked and my heart sank and I felt dizzy just reading such text messages. It was so hostile and full of accusation. So I immediately replied: 


“Hey I think you misunderstood. I do not have any involvement with your husband. I have a husband too.” 


And then I took a screen shot and send it to his other messaging app which he uses for work and told him “cham liao you”(it means you are in deep shit). I was thinking how am I going to solve this misunderstanding and I wanted him to know what is happening as he is responsible for what he sends me but at least my replies have always been sensible. Then I thought how am I going to explain to his wife and am I going to cause his marriage problems. That short few minutes was hell for me. He then replied me “got you bono!” (Okay I’m not sure what is Bono but he said that’s a nickname for me and I told him I hate that nick name). I just felt so angry with this prank and what he proceeded to say further made me angrier. He said “wanted to give you an experience of being small 3” (direct translation from Mandarin means mistress) and I told him I didn’t need that as I would not get involved with other people’s husbands and he said “Well it is to give you a taste on how to handle such situations” which does not dissipate my anger and I just replied him with “WTF” and “WTH” and I deleted all our conversations and he said “okay take a deep breath and go to bed” and I told him “yes it’s inappropriate to text someone else’s husband this late!” And I ignored him.


I felt affected by those messages as it was so negative and at the same time I was dead worried about someone else’s wife being mad at me for no reason and I did not want to add additional stress to my life. I’m also really glad that messaging apps these days can clear chats at one button and have the function to keep text for only a set time limit. I have nothing to hide but his suggestive messages would make any sane wife angry and suspicious. Gosh, that little surge of adrenaline is now wearing out and I feel exhausted. Some friends are just bad and lately, I identified a few and have distanced myself from them. I think I would love to be like the person who says “I don’t need friends” because the more I know people the more I feel it is better to not form friendships with anyone. I shall continue to protect my energy and cut off all those who drain my energy. 

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